Hey Buddy, I Think You Need My Help!

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I like to help my fellow man when I can, I think it helps builds some good karma for me and I don’t think you can have too much of that.

So now I want to do my fellow gender a solid, especially the young bucks out there who seem to have gone a little “astray” when it comes to behaving like a man.  A man, that when women who look for  “quality”  males, will find acceptable.

Being on social media gives me a chance to observe my fellow man without having to get too involved in their lives and some of the behaviors I see are really quite pathetic if you ask me.  So here is what I will do for you, I’m going to list a few things that you’re doing that makes you look stupid.  And probably damages any chances you may have in meeting women who have some class and character.

So guys if you find yourself doing any of this stuff…Stop it! Stop now!

 

The Bragger

Guys if you like to brag about all the women your hooking up with, then you are a douchebag, you may be scoring but you won’t  “score”  the right lady when you come to your senses and settle down, hopefully by then you won’t be riddled with STD’s, if so I’m going to take a wild guess and say your high scoring days will be behind, along with your dignity.

The Tilter

Guys who tilt their baseball caps off to the side, the look doesn’t convey that your cool, all it really says is  “I’m not smart enough to figure out how to wear this baseball cap, even though every toddler on earth seems to be able to handle it”

 

The Profiler 

Guys if your Facebook profile includes the following “Women”  listed under your Interests or Activities section. Guess what, this makes you look like a freaking idiot, it also says you have never been laid and probably won’t be anytime soon.

 

The Wardrobe Malfunction 

Guys if you wear big saggy pants, you are just plain dumb, that’s right dumb!  If your pants look like they are made for someone who weighs 300 pounds and you only weigh a buck sixty, then you are dumb!  Do you think women like a guy who gropes his own crotch all day just to keep your pants from falling down?  Do you think you look hardcore?  Let me just say, there’s not a damn thing threatening about you, so find some pants that fit dummy!

 

The Skinner

Guys the other pants issue is  “skinny jeans”  please just say NO, you look just as bad as the saggy pants guy, just find pants that fit properly, please!

 

The BMX Guy 

Guys if your only mode of transportation is a bicycle and you’re over the age of 18, you really shouldn’t be out trying to impress women, looking for a hook-up, what are you going to do give her a ride on your handle bars?  What you need to do is get yourself squared away first, get an education, job, car and then maybe focus on getting a date.

 

The Hairdo Guy

Guys if you cut your hair like you just tried out for a melodramatic, eyeliner-wearing, wrist-cutting, crappy musical group.  Let’s just say you basically look like you let your five year old sister maim your hair. Get your shit squared away son, your embarrassing yourself.

 

Alright, that’s probably enough help for today, so guys if you find yourself doing any of these things you might really want to take a good, hard look at yourself, figure out where you went wrong and why, then fix that shit.

Something Is Better Than Nothing!

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So I would like to believe I’m one of those people that will give 100% no matter what it is I’m doing…But, like most people, once in a while I find myself in circumstances beyond my control and giving 100% just isn’t an option.

During these times it might seem easier just to do nothing, I have a valid excuse right? But I like to lean towards doing “something”  It is better than nothing, perhaps you disagree, and maybe you think 100% effort in everything you do is possible. I’m just trying to be realistic.

So when it comes to bettering yourself, doing  “Something”  is almost always better than nothing at all. Unless the “Something”  you’re thinking of happens to be  “eating Doritos while watching Oprah re-runs”  or  “Calling the Psychic Hotline for fitness advice”  The most difficult part of getting healthy can simply be making the first move.

Taking the first step out of your house for a run.

Mixing up the first ingredients for a healthy meal.

Saying  “No”  to that first tasty doughnut at work.

Waking up earlier than usual so you have time to exercise.

Or in my case this evening, taking the time to write this article, I told myself I would spend a certain amount of time each day to writing, it’s my therapy, my release and sticking with it even when I feel like doing something else is important in many ways.

The argument could be made that taking the first step is even more crucial if you’re  “just”  getting started for the first time.

If you’re overweight, out of shape and having a rough time in your life. The thought of exercising on a daily basis probably seems daunting to you.  If you’ve never run a mile before, a marathon probably seems like some fantasy that only imaginary people run.  Or what If you’re trying to get out of the thousands of dollars of credit card debt you find yourself in, saving a few dollars here and there might seem like a waste of time.

Keeping your head screwed on tight during these stressful times is also important. Remember to keep your composure, and think to yourself that something is better than nothing at all.

If you don’t have time for a full workout… Do half of it.

You can’t do a full push up… Do half of one.

Can’t run a full mile… Walk it (this is what I usually do, I hate running)

If you’re going out of town and there’s only bad food. Do the best you can to eat healthy for as many meals possible.

If you can’t pay off $200 bucks a month… Do $100 or $50 or even $25.

So…Is  “Something”  really better than Nothing?

You might be thinking, “This just seems like a lot of half-assing going on here”  and what ever happened to giving it your best in everything you do?

Okay let me clarify this shit, you’re not half-assing it if you can’t do something all the way for a legitimate reason.  For example, weather, unexpected work projects, your kid gets sick, flight delays, food poisoning, whatever.. “Shit Happens and Life Doesn’t Always Go According To Plan”

So in these types of circumstances, I would advocate for “Something”  over doing nothing at all.

We humans are creatures of habit, each day we make decisions that will either take us one step closer or one step farther from our goals. When our goal is trying to get into shape, working on good eating habits and positive reinforcement is a key factor for having long-term success. If you tell yourself it’s okay to  “skip just this one workout”  the next time you have a conflict arise it will just be that much easier to  “I’ll skip just this one too”.

But… If you can drag your ass out the door for a workout even when you really don’t want to, it will be easier to convince yourself  “Hey, I did it last time, I can do it this time as well.”

So it doesn’t matter if you don’t have time for the whole workout, Half of it is so much better than none at all.  Not only are you burning more calories than you would if you skipped it and you’re also planting an  “I’m getting my ass healthy”  seed in the front of your mind for the rest of the day. Which hopefully will influence you to make other good choices throughout the day as well.

It can be easy for us all to get overwhelmed at times by looking too far ahead into the future and freaking out.  Take things one small change at a time, one day at a time and focus on putting one foot in front of the other…You can figure the rest out as you go.

So this turns out to be the easiest part to try and explain to you, but might be the hardest part to implement.

Shut Up…Stop Complaining…Stop Making Excuses…Suck It Up.

And Do Something… Do Anything!!

“No one believes your excuses except for you!”

We all have crappy situations and circumstances that we are dealing with in our lives, Not enough time, Too tired, Bad day at work, Girlfriend cheated on me, Lost my job, My cat ran away, whatever.  These things will only be your downfall if you let them. If you really want to start living a better life, you will need to stop using these excuses as crutches to make yourself feel better about avoiding your responsibilities.

So go do something…Go do anything!

If you haven’t exercised in a month or so, go for a walk on your lunch break. If you have eaten 20 unhealthy meals in a row, make tonight the first healthy meal. If you usually chain smoke 30 cigs a day, aim for 29 or 28.  Aim to be better, no matter how small the difference is. Every little bit counts, every little bit helps.

Now Get Started and Have a Kick Ass Day!!

I Wish You Were Healthy Like Me!

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So what do you do when you’re in a relationship and only one of you is making the effort to get healthy?

This can be a tricky topic, I think we are constantly growing and changing, same thing happens to relationships, the ones that grow together tend to be better and happier in the long run.

So what do you do when one person in the relationship is struggling to live a healthier lifestyle, while their significant other is not interested or motivated to make those changes with them?

So let’s break this down, you are with somebody who you love unconditionally, yet they seem to be enablers of your unhealthy lifestyle and push back when you say you want to make some positive changes.  In fact, when you tell your loved one that you want to lose weight or start eating better, they say something like  “but I like you just the way you are.” (that’s a load of cat doo doo)

And then there are the more difficult cases, situations where you have loved ones who have let themselves go physically and are pretty unhealthy.  Be honest, there is NO good way to tell your loved one things like  “You need to lose weight”  or “You should really start exercising”  (I can feel the drama already with that one)  If you are truly worried about your loved one, I can imagine that they already feel pretty self-conscious and will instantly get defensive if you open up a discussion with them about their health or appearance.

So if you’re in this situation and have a loved one who is out of shape and sadly not interested in getting healthy and you are truly worried about them…You obviously can’t use force to get them to exercise or to make healthier food choices.

And nagging them to exercise is only getting you rebuke and hostility.  Look, if it’s not their choice to start exercising then they will most likely reject it or quickly give up at the first sign of resistance.

So what the heck can you do? I would say the best approach is to plant the seed deep in their subconscious that life will be better if they start taking care of themselves.  This isn’t about manipulation, it’s just merely suggesting that you try to line up the pieces in the right places so that when your loved one is ready to make changes they will be on the right path to success.

This isn’t a quick fix approach, remember it may have taken you years and years before you made the choice to pursue a healthy lifestyle, so patience will be required.

Perhaps some of these tips can help you along in this process…

You can use this article as the  “Bad Guy” …Tell them you read this idea about lifestyle change at An American In Montana (Sorry, self-promotion is important) and it seems like it’s a little ridiculous, but what do you think?

Try something new together… (Fill in the blank) seems like a cool thing to do, but I’m worried that I can’t follow through with it by myself. Can we try this 30 day challenge together? I know you can help me stay on track.

You should constantly ask for their advice and support on being healthier. The goal is to get them talking about making healthier choices and make it more and more of a comfortable topic of discussion. When you find interesting articles about healthy living, share them and ask their opinion.

So get conversations started, here are some good examples “Hey, I have been trying to lose some weight lately. What do you think about the Paleo diet?”  or  “I’ve been reading this awesome blog site lately called An American In Montana (Sorry, I can’t help myself) and it has me thinking about how I want to make better choices, are there any bad habits of mine you would like me to change?”  Yes, your throwing yourself under the bus, but at least it gets the conversation started.

And then there are the always beneficial positive comments, use them …a lot!

Like these old standbys…“Did you lose weight?”  “You look great whatever you’re doing keep it up!”  Be your loved one’s biggest cheerleader and supporter (Something you should be anyways)

So the whole idea is to get to the point of having open discussions about health and fitness, sharing tips, asking for opinions and advice…Hopefully you will get to this point.

Okay,  So you’re at the point where you have explained to your loved one that you are sticking with this and are going to work on improving YOUR life, you still might face some push back. Getting your loved one on your team is essential, If you are constantly trying to eat new types of food, to cook instead of getting fast food or doing more active things and spending less time with your loved one, it can lead to hurt feelings and bad blood …we don’t want that.

So to avoid this you need to get your loved one on your team, here are a few ideas that might…

Find ways to be active together.  Explain that you really need help staying on track so you would like to exercise together.

Find activities that you can both can do together, but don’t limit it to working out.  Try going on hikes (here in Montana if you can’t find a place to hike…Well…you’re not even trying) or perhaps try taking dance lessons together, or some type of self-defense classes and so on.

Set up a reward program, explain that you’re in a weight loss competition at work and the winner gets $500 (by the way it might be a good idea to start a competition at work) and if you win, you will be spending that money on a romantic getaway for the two of you. Suddenly, they’re working with you to win that getaway rather than sabotaging you with hurt feelings.

Or how about an Intimate reward system, every time either of you loses a few pounds, you get a 30 minute massage or a foot rub.

When you collectively lose a certain amount of weight, you get a special date night at your favorite restaurant (just be sure there are healthy meal choices on the menu)

Alright…skip forward a bit.  You’re trying to get healthier and your loved one still hasn’t fully jumped on board with the idea yet, You may face a few well-intentioned but highly destructive comments like…

“Why don’t you skip your run this morning and sleep in with me.”

“Want to sit on the couch and watch TV with me tonight?”

“Why are you trying to change? I like you just the way you are!”

Your response needs to be something along these lines…

“Honey/Pumpkin/Muffin/Moonpie I’m not doing this for you, I need to do this for me and I really need your support.”

You need to be the Inspirational and Motivational person that will inspire them to want to change.

Here’s how you can get started:

Be the Awesome example and always pick healthy options over unhealthy ones and do it with a loving smile.

Offer to do the shopping and cooking if it’s not something you normally do, prepare healthy meals as often as possible.

Politely decline invitations for sweets, desserts and the other unhealthy snacks. But don’t judge your loved one if they choose to do so.

Always keep in mind you’re not doing this for them, you’re doing this for YOU!!

Want To Earn Your Sprinkles?…Then I Have A Mission For You!

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I have a mission for you…if you choose to accept it, you may finally earn your Sprinkles!!

I have found in my past, one of the best ways of motivating me to try something new was to make it a challenge, add fun to it and you have a successful way of getting healthy.

Lately, I have been getting a lot of questions like these, from people who are trying to get started on the road to fitness..

“Do I start running every day? What about push-ups?”

“Should I eat low fat? Should I count calories? Try Paleo?”

“I hear yoga is good. But so are boot camps. And what about those dvds?”

There are a million or so different ways a person could get started on the road to a healthy lifestyle and because of that its damn easy just to do nothing. I read an article recently that called this  “paralysis by analysis.”  Which means people just get overloaded with ideas or places to start that they have no idea what will truly work for them.

I am a firm believer in Simplicity, if you’re anything like me you tailor your life so that everything is in its simplest form, no complicated programs, no over the top diets. Just simple things that work.

So instead of suggesting complicated ways to start your road to health and fitness, I’m going to break that trend and build a healthy simple cycle for you.

Let’s call them Sprinkle Missions…

I’m going to present you with five  “Sprinkle Missions”  these are five missions that will get you started down the road to a better life.  To make it simple, I want you to pick just one and then I want you to do it every day for the next week.

If you’re feeling like a  “Sprinkle Spartan”  then you can do two of them at a time. However, what I don’t want is for you to try and do all of them every day…You will get overwhelmed and cripple your will power.

You’re Goal…Finish your week with 7 straight days of victory.

The missions below are designed to be completed daily. I want you to prove to yourself that you can build a habit, that you can make a lifestyle change, and that you can stick with it for an entire week.

Hopefully you will finish your week with a boatload of momentum (for those who don’t know that’s quite a bit of momentum)

So if you’re struggling to start a fitness lifestyle or just looking for a way to reboot your current one, then these missions may be the answer.

Here are your Sprinkle Missions if you choose to accept them…

 

Sprinkle Mission Feet of Fury: Go for a 5 minute walk!

Description:  Yeah, I know five minutes doesn’t seem like a lot of time and a single step might not seem like much either. However, combine enough steps together and big things could happen. Look what happened to a small hobbit that walked to Moldor, destroyed some dumb ring and saved Middle Earth (I was trying to be relevant in my movie example but the Hobbit was all I could come up with)

The five minutes really isn’t the important part, it’s actively committing to a change in habit and making these five minutes a normal part of your day. Once you prove this to yourself, you will be asking  “Hey if I can walk for five minutes, why not six, and so on.”

 

Sprinkle Mission Veggie Tales: Eating your veggies!

Description: So every single day, for an entire week, you need to eat at least one vegetable per day. The more green and leafy the better. Vegetables are loaded with nutrients, but generally light on calories. This means they can fill you up and fuel you up without fattening you up. Not gonna lie. I’m pretty proud of that last sentence. Anyways, even if you hate vegetables, your excuses end right here (x) so pick one and get started.

 

Sprinkle Mission Hell’s Kitchen: Home cooked meals!

Description: Replace one meal each day with a home cooked meal. It can be something as simple as chicken and broccoli, or any healthy recipe that you know or can look up online. Or ask your Nana. Heck, you can batch cook one meal on Sunday and eat it for the next seven days if you want.

Just prove to yourself that the kitchen is not a scary place, and that you are capable of making a meal for either breakfast, lunch or din din.

I would suggest checking out the Paleo diet, they have some great recipes for home cooked meals and it is an excellent program to follow in my opinion.

 

Sprinkle Mission Push It Good: You’re doing push-ups!

Description: So for this one you will need to complete 3 sets of 10 push-ups (any type) as one of the most iconic and accessible of all exercises, the push-up builds strength in your chest, shoulders, triceps, and your core. If you can complete 3 sets of 10 regular push-ups, go for it. If you can’t then try incline push-ups, knee push-ups or wall push-ups instead. (You can easily find examples of all these online)

The goal again is not to exhaust yourself, but rather to prove to yourself that you can spend five minutes each and every day focusing on making a physical improvement to yourself.

 

Sprinkle Mission Home Front: Improving and Simplifying your surroundings!

Description: Every day this week, spend five minutes “improving your surroundings”  What I mean is, we are the products of our environment, so if we start to make small changes to our environment we can actually change our behavior without expending too much willpower.

If you want to build a new habit, remove one step between you and that new habit, for example if you’re having trouble getting the time to do your run in the mornings, try sleeping in your running clothes so you’re ready to beat feet first thing. Or try packing your gym bag the night before and put it in your car. BAM!  You’re ready for your workout.

Put a pull up bar in your doorway, and do one rep every time you walk past it.

If you want to break a bad habit, ADD one step between you and that habit.

Stop DVRing crappy TV shows, so you spend less time watching TV.

Throw away all the junk food from inside your home.

Block yourself from time wasting websites. More time for fun and positive stuff.

START NOW!!

By themselves just five minutes a day seems like nothing, but these missions are simple steps towards the goal of creating a habit, something you can stick with.

Now Go Earn Your Sprinkles!!

Why You So Boring?

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Yes, I’m the first to admit it….I’m boring!  I’ve heard it numerous times from so many people. I even heard it yesterday, after I turned down an offer to go hang out at a bar…Really?  In this small town with little to do especially during the winter or as I call the  “Frozen Hell of Discontent” everyone seems to go out drinking and I, the Boring one, just find myself alone with my cat.

For excitement I like to read the morning Police reports looking for how many people that I know who got a DUI the night before…always an interesting read.  Anyways back to being Boring.  I eat the same semi-healthy meals daily which is Boring… I go to the gym everyday doing the same squats, curls, and bench presses which is Boring…I do the treadmill for 20 min every morning which is Boring…I go to bed early and get up early which is Boring…I say No to sweets, always declining deserts, and I skip the occasional piece candy which I’m offered which of course is Boring…I do the same thing, day in and day out, for months and months which of course is Boring.

Let’s face it being into fitness and a healthy lifestyle is boring, it’s about routine.  I am always seeing the new ads from companies that are trying to promote the new best thing. Or fitness guru’s pushing the exciting new exercise that’s going to make you huge.

I guess people who have a hard time with routines and being Boring like all these flashy new things, they get excited for the new running shoes that promises to make you float above ground…or the amazing new diet that literally makes fat fall off you faster than a strippers clothes on a Saturday night…And for these people that love all these exciting new things they get to stay unhealthy while they chase the next new fad.

Boring does not sell magazine subscriptions, advertisements, or DVDs.  Boring is silent, unwavering progress…Boring is sticking to the same routine week after week, month after month…Boring means not freaking out when your stepping on the scale and the number is slightly off…Boring means making small repeated improvements to an otherwise un-moving and determined schedule…Boring is replacing grand declarations of drastic change with tiny habit changes over a long Boring period of time.

So you can make fun of me for being Boring as you go about your busy fun filled lives and that’s okay because I have found out the benefits of being Boring.

Boring leads to weight loss…Boring leads to strength and power…Boring leads to increased productivity…Boring leads to success and habit change that actually works…Sometimes, Boring can be fucking Awesome and this is one of those times.

Perhaps YOU should go be Boring!!

Guess What?…It’s Flippidy Dippity Monday!

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So today is Flippidy Dippity Monday!!  I have been writing a lot of stuff about how you can better yourself, ways to a healthy lifestyle and all I think people hear is Blah, Blah, Blah and Blah…Nobody listens, Nobody Cares.  People just complain that my posts are too long and they lose interest.

What the Hell does everyone have ADD?!

I ran into an older lady, one who had braces (this makes no difference to the story but just wanted to point it out for my own amusement ) at America’s store  “Walmart”  and she told me that I really don’t mean all this stuff I say on here, that I don’t care about motivating people or about them succeeding.

That made me think, am I the guy who a few short years ago didn’t care about trying to help people or am I truly the guy I am today, motivated and willing to help others the best I can to improve their lives?  Well I am the latter, I truly want to help people, even if it’s just by writing a semi-motivational blog,  so with that in mind I will try a new approach today, instead of giving you advice on how to live a healthy lifestyle, I am going to give you the best suggestions ever at how to be “Unhealthy”  think of this as the worst instructional fitness/lifestyle  blog ever.

Here is my list for the top five ways to be “Unhealthy.”

 

Just Give Up

So when things don’t go your way, rather than analyzing, adjusting and simply trying again… Just Give Up!

When you step on that scale this week and it’s half a pound or so heavier than last week, instead of making changes to your diet and cutting out one extra soda this week.  Go Ahead and Flip the **** Out and Give Up!  Just think about it, Giving Up is so much easier than working hard, struggling and persevering.

Get over it and move on?  Pshh, Homie Don’t Play That!.. Give Up!  Guys and Gals that keep going to the gym are totally awful at failing, they just keep going for months and months…You can’t have that!

 

Complain As Much As Possible

Try saying this  “I don’t have good genes”  or this gem  “I don’t have time”  If those don’t work, there’s always  “I just can’t lose weight”  or my favorite  “I’m just not as lucky as you”  Remember… Complain to anybody that will listen to you and even those people that don’t. The more disdain and self-loathing you can produce the better.

 

Change Workout Plans As Often As Possible

Don’t stick with a good plan for 6-12 weeks (or even longer if it’s working).  Be sure to freak out about two weeks into any plan when you don’t see drastic changes and then pick another plan that promises even better results.

The faster the freak out, the more quickly you can move on to the next routine.

 

Blindly Follow Conventional Wisdom

Don’t eat fat, Avoid foods with cholesterol.  Eat as many healthy whole grains as possible, all damn day if you want.

Ignore advice to consume all natural foods from  “Fad” diets like the  “Paleo Diet.”  Instead buy  “healthy”  microwaveable dinners that taste like dirty feet. Those truly are the best.

 

Make Yourself Miserable

Everyone knows that exercise only counts if you are suffering and hating life, so only do exercises that make you want to dropkick a puppy. Pick the least enjoyable form of exercise you can think of (For me, that would be running) and then force yourself to do it for hours on end… Everyday!

Then combine this with some sort of diet where you starve yourself, so that you have no energy and hate your life. Even better, combine this with a  “Super”  unhealthy diet (telling yourself. I earned this! ) and then wonder why you’re not losing weight.

 

* Bonus Advice*

Compare Yourself To Others

Pick out some people who are different sizes, shapes, builds and genetics. It doesn’t matter that their body functions completely different than yours, or that they eat differently and exercise differently than you.

Find those people and say  “you won the genetic lottery”  and “I can’t lose weight so it’s not my fault”  Then make yourself feel better by finding people that are  “Really”  overweight, unhealthy, and unhappy. Pat yourself on the back and say “Meh…good enough”  Non-Applicable Comparisons FTW !!

Okay, better throw in something that’s actually helpful and might actually help you get “Healthy”

Ready For It?

Start simple, set tiny goals, build tiny habits, eat less crap and move more. Find some activity that makes you happy and do it as often as possible. Then find ways to eat a little healthier. Cut out liquid calories. Add in strength training. Sleep more.  Repeat these small daily changes and improvements until these things become habit. Repeat until your desired results are achieved, generally for months or years. Then push yourself to be even better.

I just made every past, present and future fitness post you will ever read obsolete. But I will keep writing them anyways because I need something to do.

Have a Kick Ass Day!!

AWESOME!!!

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So one of my favorite expression to use is  AWESOME!  I’m always telling people to go be  AWESOME, I think it’s one part motivation and one part challenge. So when I tell people to go be  AWESOME  basically I’m telling them to be the best version of themselves that they can be and never accept “Can’t”  as an answer to any of their challenges.

But I got to thinking, which is usually troubling in itself, “What if people don’t know how to be  AWESOME?”  I may tell them to be  AWESOME  today but if they don’t know how to go about it then it pointless, it’s like a teacher giving a student the answer to a question, but not teaching them how to go about solving it.  So listen up kids,  class is now in session, I am going to give you some of the tools you need to solve the question of how to be AWESOME.

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” –Mark Twain

Now first thing is first, you must be willing to accept the mentality that there willing be people along your journey that will try to break your spirit…don’t let them, the weak minded will always try to bring the strong willed down to their level…Rise Above!

Being truly  AWESOME  will require you to initiate, take the action necessary and chart your own course through life’s inherit mediocrity.

Nothing worth anything in life comes easy, so be prepared to put the work in. Everything you do during your day, give it a hundred percent, half-assers deserve nothing, if you truly want to be  AWESOME  then always work hard at everything you do, your job may suck, but it’s the only job you have right now so go all in, look for something better, somewhere you truly want to be, but until that day comes bust your ass, it shows your character and you will just feel better about yourself.

And about that job, let’s focus on that for a moment…Here are a few things that will help you stand out and look AWESOME!

Showing up to work is expected. Showing up early, prepared, and with a good attitude is remarkable.

Present solutions, not problems. If you can present solutions to other people’s problems, you’ll go far. Contribute big ideas, including some that you know are likely to fail.

You’ve probably heard this before: “If you want to get something done, ask a busy person to do it.”  To be AWESOME,  be the busy person who gets things done.

Okay enough about work…How about being  AWESOME  in your relationships?  Yes, this is a given, if you want to be happy and successful in life you need to surround yourself with  Happy and Successful  people, you know, equally AWESOME  people just like yourself.

Here is a novel concept, Over-deliver in your personal relationships. Give more than you get. Never end up finding yourself in a relationship debt.

Never make excuses about being too busy, not having enough time, etc. People who are  AWESOME  make time for what’s important to them.

Once in a while you will screw up, we all do it, but when you do try apologizing like this…

“I’m really sorry. It was completely my fault. I hope you’ll forgive me, and here is how I am addressing this in the future.”  This type of apology shows you are taking responsibility and you value the other person enough to try and avoid it happening again!

We all get busy from time to time and we forget about commitments, so if you forget to do something that you had committed to do but then remember it later, fix it right then, and do it as soon as you remember, don’t keep putting it off, that’s not very  AWESOME  at all!

When bad things happen, you can forgive the following: mistakes, weaknesses, shortcomings. (No one is exempt from these things, even  AWESOME  people.)

Practice the art of radical exclusion with people who waste your time. This is NOT being impolite – it is showing respect for the people you have committed to serve.

Remember that people will basically act the same no matter who they are around. If the people you hang out with are always complaining about other people, chances are they probably complain about you too. The point is: don’t put others down when they’re not around, or at least make sure you’re comfortable with whatever you say being repeated.

Reward the behavior of other  AWESOME  people, and stop rewarding mediocrity. Tip extra for good service at a restaurant. For the rare occasion when service is awful, don’t tip at all.

When you find yourself in a conversation with someone who likes to argue all the time, you may be tempted to respond, but you’ll regret it in the end. Just walk away.

Always focus on core motivations. When presented with a request, analyze the situation by thinking about exactly what the person wants from you. (Hint: it is not always what they are explicitly asking for.)

Keep up the positive momentum. Look to the future, not the past. Remember yesterday was yesterday, it’s done, it’s over, focus on today because today is the only day you have, tomorrow is never guaranteed to you, so live in this day, the only day you really have!

Never be a critic without presenting an alternative. Remember that no statues are erected to critics, and no one is remembered for shooting down other people’s ideas.

Well these are just some simple ideas for you to keep in mind as you go about your day trying to be  AWESOME…You got this, you truly are AWESOME!!

Time To Kick It To The Curb!

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So we all have a few bad habits, right? At least I would like to think that nobody is that perfect…that would be a scary person to be around in my book.

So I’m currently working with a few friends to help each other kick some bad habits, sort of a little support collective, where we are constantly reminding each other and holding each other accountable, having a small support group really has been helpful.

When it comes to dealing with bad habits and attempting to get rid of them suckers, having self-pity and making excuses will not get you anywhere. In fact they can be detrimental to your success.

And I am defining success in this case as utterly destroying your bad habits and replacing them with positive habits. If we let our mindset get stuck in a place where we are making excuses and acting like a victim, it can feel like we are working in quicksand, the more we struggle the more difficult it becomes to reach a success.

So our little support group has come up with these ideas which can certainly help anyone trying to get rid of your bad habits…

 

Write Your Habits Down On Paper

If you’re not old school like me and are unfamiliar with paper then go ahead and use your Ipad or some techie device, anyways just make sure you get ALL your bad habits written out. Not only does this show you’re serious about addressing your issues, it also makes it easy for you to keep an eye on it.

Write down the habits that you think are dragging you down the most and having a negative impact on your life in some way.

 

Categorize Your Habits

Some of our bad habits can be dealt with fairly quickly compared to others, some habits are more urgent than others.

For example… Substance Abuse habits are a lot more urgent because they are potentially life threatening. Unlike habits such as allowing clutter to build up in your office or work space, this wouldn’t be as urgent.

Categorize your habits like this:

High Priority

Medium Priority

Low Priority

Or whichever way you think works best for you

 

Set Up Boundaries

When you’re on the verge of destroying your bad habits or minimizing them you’re bound to face a few distractions. For example, If you’re trying to quit smoking, you’re probably going to notice other smokers or be around friends and family who smoke. You might notice the cigarette packs behind the counters of stores you go into.

Using the smoking example, Your best approach might be…

Asking your friends not to smoke around you.

Letting your family know you’re trying to quit.

Inform everyone to prevent them asking you anything related to smoking.

Replacing the bad habit of smoking with a healthier one like writing or bike riding.

The same goes for any other bad habit you want to get rid of, another example would be over spending. In this case you might be best off…

Splurging once a month instead of spending multiple times per week.

Replacing your habit of over spending with over saving.

Figuring out ways to earn more money, so if you do “splurge” it isn’t as much of a financial issue.

And so on…

 

Focus On One Habit At A Time

You might have more than one bad habit to conquer and yes you are eager to get rid of them, but try to relax. Focus on one habit at a time. That way you can put ALL your focus into that one habit you want to get rid of. And then when that habit has been dealt with, you can move onto the next one.

 

Participate With A Friend Or Group

I have noticed when I do an activity with someone other than just myself, it pushes me and gets me more motivated. If I want to get some cardio done and I have a training partner, I’m more likely to get it done. Being held accountable by someone else can really help keep you on track.

 

Review Your Progress

If you don’t know how well you’ve been doing, you won’t know if you’re progressing or not. You won’t know if you’re getting any closer to achieving your goals. Write down the progress you make every day and keep it recorded, sort of a Goal Journal. Treat it like a 30 day challenge or something similar. Check up on your progress as often as you can and make adjustments as you go if needed.

Maybe you won’t succeed the first time around or even the 5th time, but when you do you’ll know about it. Because the evidence will be there to back it up.

 

Celebrate Your Success

When you finally achieve your goal and destroy that nasty habit, celebrate it.

Celebrate it in any way you know best, whether that’s treating yourself to a spa day. a night out, a party, it really doesn’t matter how…Just do it.

Most of us are quick to pick at our failures and mistakes, yet we’re not so quick to mention or celebrate our successes. So with each bad habit you replace, make an effort to do that, and do it well.

Good luck on replacing your negative habits with positive ones…YOU CAN DO IT!!

Doing Something Is Better Than Nothing At All…

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So I would like to believe I’m one of those people that will give 100% no matter what it is I’m doing…But, like most people,  Once in a while I find myself in circumstances beyond my control and giving 100% just isn’t an option.

During these times it might seem easier just to do nothing, I have a valid excuse right? But I like to lean towards doing “something”  It is better than nothing, perhaps you disagree, and maybe you think 100% effort in everything you do is possible… I’m just trying to be realistic.

So when it comes to bettering yourself, doing  “Something” is almost always better than nothing at all. Unless the “Something”  you’re thinking of happens to be  “eating Doritos while watching Ellen re-runs”  or  “Calling the Psychic Hotline for fitness advice”  The most difficult part of getting healthy can simply be making the first move.

Taking the first step out of your house for a run

Mixing up the first ingredients for a healthy meal

Saying “No” to that first tasty doughnut at work

Waking up earlier than usual so you have time to exercise

Or in my case this evening, taking the time to write this article, I told myself I would spend a certain amount of time each day to writing, it’s my therapy, my release and sticking with it even when I feel like doing something else is important in many ways.

The argument could be made that taking the first step is even more crucial if you’re  “just”  getting started for the first time. If you’re overweight, out of shape and having a rough time in your life. The thought of exercising on a daily basis probably seems daunting to you. If you’ve never run a mile before, a marathon probably seems like some fantasy that only imaginary people run.  Or what If you’re trying to get out of the thousands of dollars of credit card debt you find yourself in, saving a few dollars here and there might seem like a waste of time.

Keeping your head screwed on tight during these stressful times is also important. Remember to keep your composure and think to yourself that something is better than nothing at all.

If you don’t have time for a full workout… Do half of it.

You can’t do a full push up… Do half of one.

Can’t run a full mile… Walk it (this is what I usually do, I Hate running)

If you’re going out of town and there’s only bad food. Do the best you can to eat healthy for as many meals possible.

If you can’t pay off $200 bucks a month. Do $100 or $50 or even $25.

So..Is  “Something”  really better than Nothing?

You might be thinking, “This just seems like a lot of half-assing going on here”  and what ever happened to giving it your best in everything you do?

Okay let me clarify this shit, you’re not half-assing it if you can’t do something all the way for a legitimate reason. For example. The weather, unexpected work projects, your kid gets sick, flight delays, food poisoning, whatever.. “Shit Happens and Life Doesn’t Always Go According To Plan”

So in these types of circumstances, I would advocate for “Something”  over doing nothing at all.

We humans are creatures of habit, each day we make decisions that will either take us one step closer or one step farther from our goals. When our goal is trying to get into shape, working on good eating habits and positive reinforcement is a key factor for having long-term success.

If you tell yourself it’s okay to  “skip just this one workout”  the next time you have a conflict arise it will just be that much easier to  “I’ll skip just this one too.”

But… If you can drag your ass out the door for a workout even when you really don’t want to, it will be easier to convince yourself  “Hey, I did it last time, I can do it this time as well.”

So it doesn’t matter if you don’t have time for the whole workout, half of it is so much better than none at all. Not only are you burning more calories than you would if you skipped it and you’re also planting an  “I’m getting my ass healthy”  seed in the front of your mind for the rest of the day. Which hopefully will influence you to make other good choices throughout the day as well.

It can be easy for us all to get overwhelmed at times by looking too far ahead into the future and freaking out. Take things one small change at a time, one day at a time and focus on putting one foot in front of the other..You can figure the rest out as you go.

So this turns out to be the easiest part to try and explain to you, but might be the hardest part to implement…

Shut Up…Stop Complaining…Stop Making Excuses…Suck It Up… And Do Something… Do Anything!!

“No one believes your excuses except for you!”

We all have crappy situations and circumstances that we are dealing with in our lives, Not enough time, Too tired, Bad day at work, Girlfriend cheated on me, Lost my job, My cat ran away, Whatever. These things will only be your downfall if you let them. If you really want to start living a better life, you will need to stop using these excuses as crutches to make yourself feel better about avoiding your responsibilities.

So go do something…Go do anything!

If you haven’t exercised in a month or so, go for a walk on your lunch break. If you have eaten 20 unhealthy meals in a row, make tonight the first healthy meal. If you usually chain smoke 30 cigs a day, aim for 29 or 28.  Aim to be better, no matter how small the difference is. Every little bit counts, every little bit helps.

Now Get Started and Have a Kick Ass Day!!

Thanks Mom And Dad For Making Me Husky…You Ruined My Life!

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Well hello there fellow my Americans, so you have a little weight problem do you? Well it’s okay most Americans are in the same boat you are in. America is the land of Excess, we super-size everything, we live in the moment, we enjoy rewarding ourselves any chance we get, and sometimes we just have a hard time saying NO! And why do we do this? Because we are Americans and we can do whatever the hell we want,  regardless of the future consequences.  Another thing we Excel at as Americans is finding someone other than ourselves to blame for our Excesses.

Now the common logic in the Fitness World is that most people who are “Husky” just eat too much, don’t Exercise, poor food choices, blah, blah and blah. Come on we all know it’s your own fault that you’re a “Chunky Monkey” stop blaming glandular issues, or that your feet are disproportionately small to your frame, and that you would Exercise but you don’t want to getBulky” looking.

Okay let me throw this one out there for you to chew on…So your ‘Husky” but you’re also an American which means it’s not really your fault.  Look, let me show you why it’s not your fault and also give you someone to blame.  So let’s take a gander at your propensity for being overweight or “Husky”, not to mention your Exercise habits or lack thereof and the types and amounts of food you eat can probably be traced back to your Childhood…That’s right, it’s your Parent’s fault you’re a “Chunky Monkey” if you grew up in an environment where being a coach potato was the norm, or eating unhealthy food was a daily thing and exercise meant walking from the car into Walmart and back out then it would appear we have found the source of your “Huskiness” therefore you are not required to take responsibility for your own actions….God Bless America!

Now when you go to confront your parents on this issue and lay an epic guilt trip on them, demanding they give you an increase in your allowance (even though you’re in your thirties) and that they get you new furniture for your place (their basement) then you are going to need to show them some facts to back up your accusations of parental abuse which caused a lifetime of “Huskiness” on your part.

So the first fact you want to hit them with is probably the most damning one, the one they will have a hard time denying…Let them know they gave you shitty Genes! Your parents Genes obviously sucked, if you want to drop science on their asses then simply tell them that the TRIP-Br2 they passed along which is a protein that is involved with metabolism and fat storage is defective. They truly gave you defective Genes and now your Fat…Thanks a lot Mom and Dad!!

Now you would think shitty Genes would be enough but let’s really make the case for you, let your folks know they got you addicted to junk food. That’s right they created a Junkie, they got you hooked early and kept you strung-out on Ho Ho’s and Doritos! Like any addiction you gain a tolerance to the drug (Oreos) so you needed to take more and more to get the same high…Basically your parent’s were Narco-Junk Food Dealers and you were their little Junkie.

Let’s keep piling on the guilt, did they give you Antibiotics? Perhaps they will be ignorant to the fact but believe me they did.  Here’s the evidence… For a long time, farmers and ranchers have been using antibiotics in agriculture. The obvious reason would be to prevent the livestock from contracting illnesses when the rancher’s son doesn’t wear a condom, but antibiotic use is also used specifically for the purpose of increasing weight.  You see most people want their livestock to be fat because, interestingly enough, they will then use meat from the livestock to make food. People then eat the food. See you learn something new every day…So yes, your parents were fattening you up with Antibiotics.

So there you have it folks, you now have the fact’s you need to blame your parent’s for your “Husky” physique. Make sure you confront them after dinner, I would hate for you to get sent to your room (their basement) without dinner. Good Luck and remember it’s not your fault that you are the way you are!