You Can Do It!

Take a moment today to think about this, who in your life talks YOU out of more things than anyone else? Is it your spouse or significant other? Your parents? Your Boss? Your Friends? If YOU are like most people out there the answer is most likely YOU…YOU talk yourself out of most of your choices.

We all have that “inner voice” that has opinions on everything we do. That inner voice has its own perspective on YOU as a person, and is acutely aware of your limitations and shortcomings. Every time YOU attempt to step out of your box, to try something new and challenging, that inner voice starts in on YOU. …“YOU can never do that”..”It’s not worth it” …”What if YOU fail?”

Well, that inner voice is wrong. YOU can do it if YOU set your mind to it, no matter what has happened in the past. In fact, your biggest obstacle is convincing yourself that YOU can. The first step in doing that is to acknowledge that the “inner voice” exists, and then take steps to counteract it.

The inner voice will always be there. YOU can’t get rid of it. But YOU can keep it from dominating your thoughts and actions by supplying yourself with plenty of positive input.

Get yourself around positive, future-oriented people. Read books, listen to positive messages, talk back to the voice and say, “Yes I can!” Dwell on the possibilities, not the risks. Model the behavior of successful people YOU see in your life. Take action toward your goals. Remind yourself of your accomplishments and of the challenges YOU have overcome in the past. Write down your goals and review them at least once a day. Find your purpose in life keep yourself focused on it.

YOU can accomplish great things if YOU will just let yourself do it. I believe in YOU!

 

 

You Deserve It!

 

YOU deserve it! That’s right my friend…YOU. Nobody deserves to succeed more than YOU. No one deserves to be happy and fulfilled more than YOU.

YOU are just as worthy and deserving as anyone I know. But, being worthy and deserving is not enough. It is totally up to YOU to live the life YOU deserve. It is up to YOU to set the goals, develop the plans and take the actions which will bring the success YOU deserve.

Sorry but no one can do it for YOU…YOU must take the initiative to fulfill your own incredible potential. YOU deserve it…And YOU can make it happen.

Sure, it’s easy to listen to those weak minded, negative people who say YOU are undeserving. And it would be easy to listen to those who promise YOU something for nothing. But they are all wrong! No matter who YOU are, YOU can and YOU must make your own effort to live your own possibilities. No one can hold YOU back and no one can do it for YOU!

The world is filled with opportunity for YOU…Make today the day YOU grab it and run with it. YOU my friend deserve the very best and YOU are the only one who can make sure YOU get it!

Keep Going!

When you have a long way to go, keep going. When you’ve almost reached the goal, keep going.

Success is achieved by those who simply do whatever it takes to keep going. All it ever takes, is taking the next step.

When you’re frustrated, make note of your frustration and keep going. When you’re tired and weary, take time out for a little rest, and then keep going.

The real joy is in the journey, so give yourself the joy of making that journey. Pick yourself up, again and again, and keep going.

You know full well that you can do it, so do it. Remind yourself why you’ve chosen to get there, and keep going.

You are a bundle of beautiful and unique possibilities. Keep going, and bring the best of them to life.

A Guy’s Guide To Surviving An Argument.

 

We men have done some pretty amazing things throughout history, just going back the last hundred years look at all the cool stuff we achieved…We American’s landed on the beaches of Normandy and kicked the Nazi’s assess back to Germany, We put a man on the moon, We won the cold war and we have remained the undefeated world champs at football, you know real football, American football…of course we never play any other countries but that doesn’t matter because we are Americans and we do what we want.

Now the point I’m trying to make is that as men, we have faced incredible odds and overcame those odds to achieve our goals, we have faced numerous enemies in the past like Germany, Japan, Russia and came out victors. But now it’s time that we men form a strategy to take on our fiercest advisory yet, the one that strikes fear in millions of men each and every day…It’s time we face our greatest challenge, something we have never been able to successfully master, and that’s winning an argument with a female.

Let’s face it guys when it comes to women we lose every argument that we are ever involved in, even if we “technically”  win, we still lose. In my opinion arguing with a female is pointless, just like washing your car in the rain, it makes no sense, but we end up doing it anyways.

So as a male, I would like to see us men achieve finally achieve victory in the war of angry words, I have really been giving it a lot of thought the last forty five minutes and I’m pretty sure I have come up with a viable solution when we are faced with our worst nightmare, a female who wants to argue with you. Think of arguing like a Chess game, you need to think a few moves ahead, it’s about strategy and remaining calm, don’t let your emotions control the game.  My plan isn’t perfect but neither are you so that’s why it’s perfect.

 

Move One: Remove Logic

Usually when you are in an argument with a female logic isn’t used by everyone, don’t allow yourself to be handicapped by it.

 

Move Two: Never Compromise Your Beliefs

I learned a long time ago that as soon as I offered a compromise to an angry female, it was like blood in the water, the shark gets in a frenzy and attacks everything. I was told by a female friend that as soon as a guy compromises the female thinks if they can get you to concede to one thing they will be able to get you to quit on everything.

 

Move Three: Sometimes It’s Okay To Take Cheap Shots

We have all been there, we are caught up in an argument and the girl will randomly insult you with something that has no relevance to the argument. That is a power move on their part, to wear you down and break your spirit. Once they go there it is okay for you to defend yourself with your own cheap shot. Tell her she reminds you of your mom, I’ve been told that really upsets them.

 

Move Four: Note Historical References

When you start throwing historical references out during an argument, this is like being sprayed with bear spray, it will confuse and disorient your opponent.

 

Move Five: Disrupt And Interrupt

Think about it, if you disrupt the flow of her argument by interrupting her, then she can’t talk. And girls hate that, sort of like how they hate other girls, which is just as confusing and funny in a weird way.

 

Move Six: Don’t Get Too Serious

Listen don’t take this arguing stuff too seriously, try to add levity to the situation by laughing when she tries to make her point. Chances are she will start laughing as well, and the argument will be over…Or there is also the chance once you start laughing she might grab a sharp object and stab you in the heart.

 

Move Seven: Never Fall For “Let’s stop arguing please”

This is an age old tactic of the females, it is their way of making you let your guard down, then they jump on you like a band of spider monkeys, and you will lose! Instead say something like  “Yes, I think we both know I’m right so no point going any further”  Again, you run the risk of being stabbed in the heart with something pointy.

 

Move Eight: Compare Her To Another Female

This is a dangerous move, but when you feel like you’re about to lose, mention to her that one of her friends is much more compassionate than her, this will instantly disorientate her, it will give you a chance to take back control of the situation. Again, you may be stabbed in the heart and face by something sharp and pointy. Be Vigilante

 

Move Nine: Don’t Be Afraid To Cry

We all know that’s their main move when they start losing an argument, so beat her to it. Start crying as soon as the argument starts and don’t stop until your taking your victory lap.

 

Move Ten: Checkmate

Since no guy likes arguing, and we all know we never win anyways, forget about Moves 1 thru 9, and just immediately say you’re Sorry, tell her you love her and remember being right isn’t worth losing or hurting someone you love. Checkmate

i dream BIG

i dream BIG

So am I the only one that dreams of doing great things with the time I have left in this world? Pretty sure everyone dreams big, we all have great things we would like to accomplish just getting them started seems to be the tricky part.

I have a few friends who have great ideas, stuff that could actually make a difference to people, but yet they allow people…people who mean nothing in the big picture squash their ideas with their own negative feedback, Why would anyone want to crush the dreams and goals of someone who is trying to better themselves and others? Better yet why do we let people ruin our dreams?

It’s time to follow those dreams of yours, and most of all it’s time to clear your life of the negative people who hold you back from achieving them.

Do you really want to achieve great things?

You have to clear your mind of all the doubt that’s been put there, clear your life of all the negative people stopping you from moving forward.

These are your dreams, your goals, it’s your  life…No one else has a say in it, unless you give them that right.

It is completely up to YOU!

Your success or failure is completely on YOU!

If you believe that someone or something can stand in your way from achieving success, that’s completely on YOU…You are the one that is giving away all your power and giving permission to the world to choose your destiny for you.

You create these stories in your head about why you can’t do it…the kids, your lack of skills and education, it’s too late, too early, you’re too young, too old, or your damn cat ate your homework and pissed in your new shoes…these stories are just works of pure fiction…Unless YOU choose to make them reality.

If your reason “why” is big enough..You will find a way to succeed.

If you’re ready and willing to do whatever it takes, even if that means you might be laughed at and suffer a few set-backs along the way. If you’re ready to push forward and create your new reality then cut the umbilical cord connected to what the world thinks and move forward with intense determination that nothing or no one will stop you from achieving success.

You might be scared. That’s good. And if you doubt yourself that’s even better.

Fear and Self-doubt are two huge signs that you’re onto something big, and to keep moving forward.

You are an American, brave men and women have fought and died for YOU and your Freedoms… Choosing your own destiny is your freaking birthright, you just have to be willing to put in the work.

Now just put one foot in front of the other, boldly push forward and do not stop for anything or anyone.

Just keep pushing forward!

Do not worry about what others say about how great or shitty you or your goals are.

Their opinions don’t matter and frankly are none of your business, only your opinion matters.

Even if it seems the entire world is against you, just keep pushing forward and if you find yourself doubting your abilities just remember there are people without legs to walk with or eyes to see with, who are doing incredible things most of us can’t even fathom.

There are people who were beaten every day as a child and told they would never amount to anything who’ve created art so great the rest of the world stares at it in awe.

There will always be critics, and every word they utter is just another sign that you’re on the right path.

But if you’re afraid to take the risk, I guess you can keep doing what you’re doing and keep getting more of the same….

Or…You can let your inner Giant out of its cage to rise up and do some seriously awesome shit!

The choice is all yours my friends….

Land Of The Free…Free To Be Awesome!

 

 

If you are fortunate enough to be an American, you really do owe it to yourself to do something freaking amazing with your life.

If you stop and think about it, you truly are blessed, no matter what your economic situation or your place on the  “social ladder”  you have been given something a few billion other people cannot say..You’re an American, we have so many opportunities that most of the world’s population can only dream of. there are literally billions of people who every day are forced to live on less than it costs for you to buy your Pumpkin Spice Latte from Starbucks.

Stop and think of all those people who live under a Dictatorship, or under Sharia law, these people have little to no freedoms, the freedoms we often take for granted. Isn’t it great to be able to express yourself in any way you damn well please?

Imagine having to live somewhere that denies you access to the internet, where what you can buy is controlled by the government, even with all the bullshit we deal with here in America on occasion, it pales compared to most places.

Even something as simple and meaningless as Facebook is controlled. Imagine if you suddenly last your ability to share your story or flood social media with pictures of what you had for lunch, or opportunity to spread rumors about your ex (As immature and toxic as it is) …Just imagine not having this ability right now.

For all you advocates of change, imagine not being able to stand up to the wrongs of the world and create change all from the comfort and safety of your local coffee shop…Or how about sharing a poem, song or a beautiful artwork you created from the simple vision in your mind into reality…what if you weren’t allowed to share these with the world?

Now change the view…You owe it not only to yourself to have a totally Amazing life, but to the people who are dying alone right now of some terminal disease, the drivers unaware that in a mile they will die in a horrible crash, or for the ones who lose their arms and legs living out their days confined to a wheelchair.

You also owe it to every single person who helped you get where you are today. Your friends, family, teachers and mentors who showed you what was possible, helped light the way and picked your ass back up when you laid face down on the ground without the strength and will to get back up.

And for all those who told you that you couldn’t, or that you didn’t have what it takes…You owe it to them, to show them that YOU can.

But most of all, you owe it to the one who stands in the mirror each morning, preparing for another day, trying to look past that wall of fears, shame ,insecurities and self-doubt you have created.

You owe it to yourself to break down the walls and light a fire so bright, that all can see it, all will want to follow that light.

Show the world your scars, the battle wounds and tell us all how you’ve recovered from the darkest parts of your own self.

Clean away the sins of your past and let your greatest mistakes be your greatest gifts to those who will hear your story, listen to your music and Yes, even read your blog.

It’s time to live your life the way it should be lived, the way it was meant to be lived, it’s time for you to start doing something freaking Awesome with your life…

If you have dreams and aspirations of bigger things than just making a buck, then tear your heart out of your chest and give it to the world.

You have it within you to create something so great it will bring happiness to the hearts of millions, open minds for countless others who dare to dream, and live a life worth living.

Or…I suppose you could just go bitch about your ex, be the victim, confine yourself in the drama of being you. But I have a feeling you’re better than that, and you won’t settle for that …Your dreams are bigger than that!

God Bless America!

10 Things You Should Know!

 

 

  1. We search for anything and everything to make us a happy…be it money, a house, a car, a person, a job, a business, retirement, recognition, or a new pair of shoes…yet we rarely look to the one place it can actually be found…inside!

 

  1. The most painful, hardest, most gut-wrenching things we go through in life are usually our best opportunities to grow and become happier.

 

  1. The things we see in others that irritate us the most are the exact traits in ourselves we’re not willing to look at. And often times the people we dislike the most are the ones most like us.

 

  1. We try so hard to be unique just like everyone else.

 

  1. When we forgive someone, it usually does nothing for the person we forgive, but the positive impact on ourselves is profound. At its root, forgiveness is about self-forgiveness.

 

  1. The best way to get rid of fear is to actually do that thing we’re afraid of.

 

  1. Putting together the perfect life doesn’t make anyone happy. Accepting and being grateful for our imperfect life does.

 

  1. We spend a great deal of time consumed with what we want other people to think about us, even though they aren’t thinking about us at all because they too are consumed with what they want other people to think about them.

 

  1. We know that worrying never makes anything better…yet many of us still do it every chance we get.

 

  1. The more we try to be liked and admired by others, the less they tend to like and admire us.

 

Have A Kick Ass Day!!

Team Hell Yeah!!

 

So why are these semi-crappy comic book hero movies so popular with people? I was watching the Avengers last night and it struck me that the reason they are so popular is because they work as a team…Well most of the time I guess.

If you look deeper into the comic book superhero world you will see that when they join forces and work together it sells movies and books. Who doesn’t like the whole team of hero’s idea anyways.. i.e. The Justice League…The Avengers… The X-Men. So the common theme is they are composed of unique individuals with special kick-ass talents that help everybody else get through difficult situations. Like aliens blowing up a city, mutant super-villains busting shit up, etc.

Now would it make sense if every superhero had the same powers? like an army of 500 Supermen, each one having the same strengths and weakness. That would be Awesome right? Wrong!! If everyone was the same, then it would take just a wee bit of kryptonite to take them all out…So being different, being unique, each with their own weakness and strengths is the best mix for an effective team.

So the whole point of this little story is that we can take this whole superhero team idea and make it work for ourselves in the real world.  Much like in the military, a strong well-trained team can accomplish amazing things.  So if you want to succeed with your goals, or just simply live a life surrounded by positive people who help each other, support each other and motivate each other to be the best you can be then you need to build your team.

Okay ..before we get started in the selection process. There will be some of you who say  “I’m a Lone Wolf Mudda Fukkar”  you prefer to do everything on your own. I get that. I like doing shit on my own as well, swimming upstream against the flow. I enjoy working out alone, I feel I get more done. But it doesn’t mean I still don’t have a group of people to lean on while going it alone.

Look at the people who you hang out with all the time. I would venture to say your body composition, eating habits, overall health, wealth and levels of success are all fairly close to each other. What’s this mean you say, it means you are who you hang out with.

Okay team building time. I did some research on effective team building, and what to look for in your peer group. It was actually pretty interesting the way they broke it down and the psychology behind it…totally above my pay grade but I can do simple. I thrive on simple, so in my humble simple opinion I would say there are four crucial people you need on your team for it to be effective..

“The Mentor”… This doesn’t need to be some all powerful Yoda that you worship…this is a guy or girl that you know that has had success in the areas in which you want to be successful. If you want to get stronger and bigger and you’re a skinny nerd, find somebody that used to be skinny that is now bigger and stronger and find out how they did it. If you want to lose weight or run a 5k, find somebody who has more experience and learn EVERYTHING you can.

“The Brother-in-Arms/Sister-in-Arms”…This is the guy or girl in the trenches with you, at the same level, struggling with the same things, working on the same stuff. When you have a crappy day, this person knows exactly how you feel. Because you’re both doing the same stuff and striving for the same goals, you have somebody to bounce any ideas, triumphs, struggles, or suggestions off of in your quest towards a better life.

“The Student”…Want to know the BEST way about to get better at something? Teach it to somebody else! Now, you’re probably saying, but I’m not an expert …Neither am I.  But on a scale of 1-100 …1 being a Newbie and 100 being the Greatest Expert who ever walked the earth…you might be a 7…So you can teach and mentor the 1-6 skill level group …We can all learn new things from others, we all have different life experiences. So we ALL have something to give and learn from each other.

“The Wildcard”… So what the heck is a wildcard? He or she is the person in your group that is completely unpredictable…The wildcard constantly keeps you on your toes, pushes you outside of your comfort zone, makes you try new things, and even attempt new activities. He/she will make you say  “WAIT, we’re going to do WHAT!? Sigh, screw it, LET”S DO THIS!”  If you’re not in at least one situation that scares the crap out of you while hanging out with a Wildcard, then you’re not saying  “okay FINE!”  enough.

So start building your team if you don’t already have one, the whole point is just to live the best life possible in the short amount of time we have been given, life is far too crazy to go it alone. Just make sure you fill the space with Positive, Supportive People !!

Go Team Hell Yeah!!

Something Is Better Than Nothing!

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So I would like to believe I’m one of those people that will give 100% no matter what it is I’m doing…But, like most people,  Once in a while I find myself in circumstances beyond my control and giving 100% just isn’t an option.

During these times it might seem easier just to do nothing, I have a valid excuse right? But I like to lean towards doing “something”  It is better than nothing, perhaps you disagree and maybe you think 100% effort in everything you do is possible… I’m just trying to be realistic.

So when it comes to bettering yourself, doing  “Something”  is almost always better than nothing at all.  Unless the “Something”  you’re thinking of happens to be  “eating Doritos while watching Oprah re-runs”  or  “Calling the Psychic Hotline for fitness advice”…The most difficult part of getting healthy can simply be making the first move.

Taking the first step out of your house for a run…

Mixing up the first ingredients for a healthy meal…

Saying  “No”  to that first tasty doughnut at work…

Waking up earlier than usual so you have time to exercise…

Or in my case this evening, taking the time to write this article, I told myself I would spend a certain amount of time each day to writing, it’s my therapy, my release and sticking with it even when I feel like doing something else is important in many ways.

The argument could be made that taking the first step is even more crucial if you’re  “just”  getting started for the first time. If you’re overweight, out of shape, and having a rough time in your life. The thought of exercising on a daily basis probably seems daunting to you. If you’ve never run a mile before, a marathon probably seems like some fantasy that only imaginary people run.  Or what If you’re trying to get out of the thousands of dollars of credit card debt you find yourself in, saving a few dollars here and there might seem like a waste of time.

Keeping your head screwed on tight during these stressful times is also important. Remember to keep your composure, and think to yourself that something is better than nothing at all.

If you don’t have time for a full workout, Do half of it.

You can’t do a full push up, Do half of one.

Can’t run a full mile, Walk it (this is what I usually do… Hate running)

If you’re going out of town and there’s only bad food. Do the best you can to eat healthy for as many meals possible

If you can’t pay off $200 bucks a month. Do $100 or $50 or even $25

So..Is  “Something”  really better than Nothing?

You might be thinking.. “This just seems like a lot of half-assing going on here”  and what ever happened to giving it your best in everything you do?

Okay let me clarify this shit, you’re not half-assing it if you can’t do something all the way for a legitimate reason. For example. Weather, unexpected work projects, your kid gets sick, flight delays, food poisoning, whatever.. “Shit Happens and Life Doesn’t Always Go According To Plan”

So in these types of circumstances, I would advocate for “Something” over doing nothing at all.

We humans are creatures of habit, each day we make decisions that will either take us one step closer or one step farther from our goals. When our goal is trying to get into shape, working on good eating habits and positive reinforcement is a key factor for having long-term success.

If you tell yourself it’s okay to  “skip just this one workout” the next time you have a conflict arise it will just be that much easier to “I’ll skip just this one too”.

But… If you can drag your ass out the door for a workout even when you really don’t want to, it will be easier to convince yourself  “Hey, I did it last time, I can do it this time as well”

So it doesn’t matter if you don’t have time for the whole workout, Half of it is so much better than none at all. Not only are you burning more calories than you would if you skipped it and you’re also planting an  “I’m getting my ass healthy”  seed in the front of your mind for the rest of the day. Which hopefully will influence you to make other good choices throughout the day as well.

It can be easy for us all to get overwhelmed at times by looking too far ahead into the future and freaking out. Take things one small change at a time, one day at a time and focus on putting one foot in front of the other…You can figure the rest out as you go.

So this turns out to be the easiest part to try and explain to you, but might be the hardest part to implement.

Shut Up…Stop Complaining…Stop Making Excuses…Suck It Up. And Do Something…Do Anything!!

“No one believes your excuses except for you”

We all have crappy situations and circumstances that we are dealing with in our lives, Not enough time, Too tired, Bad day at work, Girlfriend cheated on me, Lost my job, My cat ran away. Whatever. These things will only be your downfall if you let them. If you really want to start living a better life, you will need to stop using these excuses as crutches to make yourself feel better about avoiding your responsibilities.

So go do something…Go do anything.

If you haven’t exercised in a month or so, go for a walk on your lunch break. If you have eaten 20 unhealthy meals in a row, make tonight the first healthy meal. If you usually chain smoke 30 cigs a day, aim for 29 or 28.  Aim to be better, no matter how small the difference is. Every little bit counts, every little bit helps.

Now Get Started and Have a Kick Ass Day!!

What Your Child Can Expect With That Unisex Name You Gave Him!

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What Your Child Can Expect With That Unisex Name You Gave Him!

 

He will be toughened up by the near daily beatings he will receive.

If he is lucky when he goes to college he might get assigned to the female dormitory.

 He can expect direct-mail marketing from Victoria Secret.

 Getting selected from the backstage list to meet the band.

 More daily beatings.

 Score an interview for Hooters.

 Can be a little bitch and get out of selective service.

 Becomes an excellent public speaker after years and years of explaining to people that there are lots of men named Robin in France. 

 Will learn to accept the looks of disappointment when assigned to study groups when the other guys discover you aren’t a girl.

 Can date a female with the same name.

 Won’t have to change their name after gender re-assignment surgery.

 And even more daily beatings.